my final thoughts on "straight guys being more gay"

So.. I've learned a lot while doing my research on straight guys being more gay. In other words, did you ever notice how good of a connection a straight girl, and a gay guy have? Well a lot of girls are hoping to have that same connection with a straight guy as well. So to be more gay, I think means to be more open, maybe more sensitive, and more caring towards a friendship with a member of the opposite sex. Mainly straight guys towards girls, because guys don't seem to have the same problem that girls do with this situation.

I think my topic was very missunderstood by a couple of people. But the people who understood where I was coming from made a lot of good points, and agreed with my point of view. Just because a straight guy shows his sensitivity to a girl, doesn't mean that he's doing it for all the wrong reasons. Sometimes, yeah they do. But if a guy really cares about a girl, then he isn't doing it for all the wrong reasons.

A lot of people actually got where I was coming from though, I was a little nervous to do this topic at first because I thought I was going to get a lot of weird reactions from a lot of people. But the more I talked about it with people the more I realized that a lot of people feel that straight guys could be "more gay". The way it's worded throws people off... but when they actually understand the meaning of the question, they weren't so awkward about it. I talked to a lot of guys, who said that when it comes to to their friendship with their girl friends, not their guy friends, that yeah maybe they could be "more gay". Shaun commented one of my posts, and I liked how he put it. He said that maybe we don't want guys to be more gay, but just sort of "gayish". And I thought that was maybe a better way to put it.

I realized that most guys, think they always have to be tough, and that they can't show their sensitivity, because it would make them look "soft", or whatever you want to call it. But then again, there are also some guys that are already that way, and they don't care what people say. Those are the guys that are really good friends.

I don't think my question will ever be 100% answered, because it does go beyond the sensitivity to something, I'm not really sure what that is though. I just know that if guys could see things through a girls eyes, they would see how much girls would value their friendship if they would just try harder. They see how girls act with gay guys, and how they connect with them, and how much fun they have with them, and sure there are some that can act that way, without feeling gay, but the ones who can't should try. I've said before, that I don't have this problem, because I tend not to really get along with a lot of girls anyways, so I have a lot of guy friends, some who are gay, some who can act "gayish", and some that aren't "gayish" at all. And I connect with each of them the same way, some more than others, but the gay ones, and the ones who can act "gayish", are much easier for me to talk to about more personal things, like the things that bother me. The straiht ones, and the ones that don't act "gayish", are a little harder to try to talk about the personal things with.