One day, I decided to go to my sisters house to study the actions between her and my niece. My sister has absolutely no patience for my niece any my niece knows it. Every time my sister asks my niece to do something, she talks back, whines and cries, throws a temper tantrum or just ignores her completely. My sister gets mad and starts to scream and yell at her, sometimes taking it too far by hitting her. What I have noticed is teen mothers (or women who were mothers when they were a teen) really dint have much patience for the child(ren). Maybe they could either learn patience or they could go for help (i.e. being a family member, a friend or a therapist.).
I was also talking to my boyfriend the other day about his "home life." I got a little insight about why he has a strained relationship with his parents. When he was growing up, he was in and out of trouble in school and in his neighborhood because of his life at home. His parents split and his mother married some other man and had his little sister, then got divorced and got back together with his father. In between all that commotion going on in his life, I guess it got so bad he couldn't take it anymore and started staying out of the house for a couple weeks at a time and eventually dropped out of school at the age of 16. Now 18, he is the one who is pretty much holding his family together. His father works long hours everyday, his mother finds things for herself to do, his little brother, 15, doesn't even go to school anymore because he thinks he has better things to do, and his little sister, 6, goes to school but is too young to understand the current situation. My boyfriend was forced to grow up fast and without any help. He takes care of his sister more than anybody in his house. He gets her up, fed, dressed and out for the bus in the morning and gets her off the bus in the afternoon. In a way, I believe somewhere in the future he will be thankful that he grew up and matured faster, but right now, his sanity is at stake.
As for me, I sat down and had a heart-to-heart talk with my mother. We talked about how our relationship got to the point it was at, about the little things that bother us, and how we can improve our relationship. We realized that me being in the house a lot is what is getting me so aggravated and tense, because if I have a bad day or something, I tend to keep it inside of me and let it eat me up inside and just snap at any given time. So we are trying to do our parts to change and improve our relationship.
I was also talking to my boyfriend the other day about his "home life." I got a little insight about why he has a strained relationship with his parents. When he was growing up, he was in and out of trouble in school and in his neighborhood because of his life at home. His parents split and his mother married some other man and had his little sister, then got divorced and got back together with his father. In between all that commotion going on in his life, I guess it got so bad he couldn't take it anymore and started staying out of the house for a couple weeks at a time and eventually dropped out of school at the age of 16. Now 18, he is the one who is pretty much holding his family together. His father works long hours everyday, his mother finds things for herself to do, his little brother, 15, doesn't even go to school anymore because he thinks he has better things to do, and his little sister, 6, goes to school but is too young to understand the current situation. My boyfriend was forced to grow up fast and without any help. He takes care of his sister more than anybody in his house. He gets her up, fed, dressed and out for the bus in the morning and gets her off the bus in the afternoon. In a way, I believe somewhere in the future he will be thankful that he grew up and matured faster, but right now, his sanity is at stake.
As for me, I sat down and had a heart-to-heart talk with my mother. We talked about how our relationship got to the point it was at, about the little things that bother us, and how we can improve our relationship. We realized that me being in the house a lot is what is getting me so aggravated and tense, because if I have a bad day or something, I tend to keep it inside of me and let it eat me up inside and just snap at any given time. So we are trying to do our parts to change and improve our relationship.
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